Coma & End-of-Life Patients...
What If Your Loved One is in a Coma or at
the End of Life?
Do You Feel Helpless?
What Can You Do?
Here is something you can do...
A Lasting Gift of Life at the End…at Death
What if a loved one is terminally ill or is in their last days of life and close to death? What should we do then? What if they are “in and out” of being conscious, or what if they are totally unconscious, perhaps in a coma?
These are some of the many questions families ask themselves when a loved one is dying. Families often feel completely helpless, wanting to help but not knowing what they can do.
There are many documented medical case studies where people “come back” from being in a coma and tell us exactly what was said and done in the room by the various visitors to their hospital bedside while they were unconscious. This happens both with short-term momentary periods of “in and out” or even long-term comas of 10-years or more.
I have witnessed many of these situations personally and sometimes the person recalls everything.
Or, what if your loved one is terminally ill, hospitalized or at home under hospice care — and is still conscious but nearing the end of life?
What Should You Do?
First of all, assume that whatever you say to the comatose or dying person can be heard by them EVEN IF they seem totally unaware — are staring blankly off into space, are “in and out” of being awake, or are unconscious.
Express your love and support for them. Tell them whatever unfinished communications you feel you need to share with them. Assume they can hear you and fully understand. Hearing is the last of our senses to leave us when we die.
Touch them. They can feel your physical touch. And they can feel the energy of your love for them in that touch.
my gift to you
Helping the Dying Transition from This Life...
To help the dying or comatose patient, I offer something that helps them be more comfortable for however long they are still physically alive.
It only takes 10-15 minutes on the phone. A family member holds the phone to the dying person’s ear (or puts me on speakerphone) and I speak to them. My words help them die more calmly and peacefully.
It is very powerful and comforting. It helps them relieve their physical and emotional pain, and smooths their transition from this life. I speak to them through their religious or cultural beliefs.
kelvin’s free gift to you...and your loved ones...
I do this for free, “pro bono” — that means it is my gift to the dying person. I do not charge for this.
If the person can speak, we can talk longer, but if they are too tired, are “in and out” of consciousness, or are completely unconscious, that is not a problem. I can still help them.
I offer this worldwide to anyone.
The Full Text of the Emails from Claire about her mum Mary in the United Kingdom
I recently received an email from a woman in the U.K. who found my website http://www.overcomingthefearofdeath.org/coma-patients/ Her mom Mary Mulqueeny, a devout Irish Catholic, was dying. She was 70 years old. While Mary had told her family that she was not afraid to die, she was defying the medical experts who could not explain how she was still physically alive given the high dosage of morphine. Her daughter then called me and asked for help, thinking her mom might still have a little bit of fear of dying. Mary now was still lucid, but could not talk. I spoke with Mary on speakerphone for 15 minutes in her hospital room.....she hadn’t spoken in a week. I received these emails from her daughter Claire:
Subject: URGENT - end of life advice
Message: Hi kelvin
My mum Mary is at the very final stage of life has not eaten or drunk water for 6 days , her body has become tolerant of all medication morphine etc ...she has defied all medical expectations and they are now asking us if there is something holding her here.
To my knowledge there is not anything - she had seen and spoken with everyone she wanted , she is a very devout catholic and has said from the onset she is not scared of death.
She is a very strong person but she wants to go but it seems her body or mind is not allowing her to.
Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated.
I cannot thank you enough for what you have done today for my mum.
Immediately after your call she beckoned and whispered to me “beautiful” she was so at peace. I have just left and she is sleeping peacefully .
I will keep you updated and I will most definitely be making a donation through your site as the comfort you gave my mum was so clear to see.
Thank you ...forever grateful
The last word she spoke was “beautiful” after your call. That evening she slipped into a coma.
This morning I woke next to her and her breath is rattling she is very close but oh so calm and peaceful .
I like to think she is revisiting your words in her mind I cannot tell you how much comfort they gave to us both .
I will keep you informed once she lets go and is on the other side ...and without doubt be supporting the amazing work you do.
Thank you Kel
Mum passed at 15.30hrs today
your words remain with me